If you grew up with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, you know firsthand how challenging and draining it can be. The constant walking on eggshells, the emotional rollercoasters, and the unpredictable push-pull dynamic can leave you feeling anxious, confused, and unsure of yourself. Setting boundaries with a parent like this can feel impossible, especially when their reactions make you doubt your every move. But here's the good news: setting boundaries isn’t rocket science. You just need the right tools and strategies to help you navigate this challenging terrain.

That’s why I created The Boundaries Roadmap, my online course designed specifically for adult children of parents with borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorders. I know how hard it is, but I also know that healing and setting boundaries are possible. In this course, I break down the step-by-step plan you need to finally feel confident in setting boundaries with your parent. Here’s what you’ll learn inside The Boundaries Roadmap and why this course can truly be a game-changer for your emotional well-being…

What You Need to Know About Parents with BPD and NPD

One of the most important things you can do for yourself is to understand your parent’s behavior. When you’ve spent your entire life trying to navigate their emotional outbursts, gaslighting, or manipulation, it can leave you feeling lost and confused. In the first section of the course, I dive into what’s really going on behind your parent’s actions. We’ll explore how borderline and narcissistic traits manifest in parent/adult child relationships and why these dynamics can make boundary-setting so difficult.

Understanding the roots of your parent’s behavior doesn’t excuse it, but it gives you the knowledge you need to approach your interactions with more clarity and confidence. When you know what to expect and why your parent acts the way they do, you’ll feel more equipped to take the next steps in establishing boundaries.

Communication Strategies That Actually Work

The key to setting boundaries with a parent who has BPD or NPD isn’t just about saying “no.” It’s about how you communicate your boundaries in a way that protects your emotional health while minimizing conflict as much as possible. I’ll walk you through effective communication strategies that work specifically for dealing with emotionally dysregulated parents. These are strategies I’ve tested over the years in both my therapy practice and personal life, and they’ve helped countless people set boundaries that stick.

You’ll learn how to speak with clarity, avoid common communication pitfalls, and respond to your parent’s inevitable pushback without getting dragged into their emotional chaos. I also share my secret tip for motivating a parent with BPD or NPD to actually respect your boundaries, which has been a game-changer for many.

Preparing Yourself for Setting Boundaries

Setting boundaries isn’t just about what you say to your parent—it’s also about how you feel inside. If you don’t feel confident and grounded, you’re more likely to cave when your parent pushes back (and trust me, they will). In The Boundaries Roadmap, I’ll help you prepare emotionally and mentally before you even start the conversation. We’ll go through exercises designed to build your confidence and remind you of why these boundaries are so crucial for your well-being.

One of the bonuses I’ve included is The Circle Worksheet, which will guide you through getting crystal clear on why making this change is important to you. This exercise is there to help you stay motivated even when setting boundaries feels too hard or your parent is making it extra difficult.

Enforcing Your Boundaries

The hardest part of setting boundaries with a parent who has BPD or NPD is dealing with the pushback. The reality is, when you start setting boundaries, your parent is likely to resist, react emotionally, or even escalate their behavior. This is where most people give up. But in The Boundaries Roadmap, I give you the tools you need to stick to your boundaries without getting overwhelmed or second-guessing yourself.

You’ll also get access to 10 Boundary Scripts—prewritten scripts that take the guesswork out of what to say. These are some of the most common boundaries people need to set with parents who have BPD or NPD, and they can save you a lot of stress when you’re not sure how to phrase things.

Rinse & Repeat: Applying Boundaries Everywhere

The beauty of The Boundaries Roadmap is that the skills you learn here don’t just apply to your parent. Once you’ve mastered the art of boundary-setting with someone as difficult as a parent with BPD or NPD, you’ll find it easier to set boundaries in every area of your life. Whether it’s with a friend, a coworker, or even your partner, these techniques are universally applicable.

In fact, I often say that if you can set boundaries with a parent who has BPD or NPD, you can set boundaries with anyone! It’s not magic, and it’s not rocket science—it’s about having the knowledge and understanding of what works and what doesn’t.

Why This Course Is for You

If you’re tired of feeling drained by your parent’s emotional volatility, if you’ve struggled for years to stand up for yourself but never felt confident enough to follow through, or if you just want a clear plan to follow so you don’t have to keep guessing what to say or how to handle their reactions, The Boundaries Roadmap is for you.

With step-by-step guidance, video instruction, a downloadable workbook, and lifetime access, this course will give you everything you need to reclaim your emotional space and feel more in control of your relationship with your parent. It’s time to stop feeling powerless and start setting boundaries that work.

Final Thoughts

The Boundaries Roadmap isn’t just a course; it’s a lifeline for anyone who has felt trapped in the emotional chaos of a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. You deserve to have peace in your relationships, and you deserve to protect your emotional well-being. Let me guide you on this journey to setting boundaries that last, so you can finally start living life on your terms.

If you’re ready to take that step, I’m here to help. Please note- this course is available through my second company, Confident Boundaries. You will be redirected to the Confident Boundaries website in order to purchase this course.