Therapy with Torie
Online therapy for adults with narcissistic, emotionally immature, and otherwise toxic parents
You didn’t imagine the chaos back then.
And you’re not overreacting right now.
I specialize in working with adults who grew up with a parent they suspect has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Growing up in this type of family dynamic trains you to constantly doubt yourself and assume complete responsibility for prioritizing everyone else’s discomfort over your own.
Therapy with me is about unlearning the survival strategies that saved you growing up but make your life immensely harder as an adult, so you can actually live a more peaceful life.
Hi! I’m Torie Wiksell, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in WA, OR, & CA
I specialize in working with adult children of emotionally immature parents- specifically those with (diagnosed or suspected) borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.
My clients are thoughtful, capable, and often high-achieving in many areas of their lives, yet they still feel overwhelmed or uncertain in their closest relationships. They tend to second-guess themselves, feel guilty for having needs, and carry a constant worry that they are the problem, even when the details tell a different story.
In therapy, I offer a space that is grounding, validating, and clear. Together, we will focus on building trust with yourself, grieving the reality of the parent you did not get, learning how to navigate uncomfortable emotions, and creating room for relationships that feel safe, mutual, and emotionally sustainable.
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You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. And you’re definitely not the problem.
It’s so nice to meet you!
Here’s a quick little video of me to give you a better idea of the person you’ll be talking with during our therapy sessions. I can’t wait to chat about how I can help.
Online Therapy Specialities
What you should know about working with me.
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Ideally, we will meet weekly for at least the first six months of working together.
While I strongly believe in the importance of meeting weekly for at least the first several months of therapy, I also understand the very real financial barriers to participating in therapy.
At a minimum, I believe biweekly sessions (every other week) of therapy are necessary to help you make meaningful progress in therapy.
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Most of my clients meet with me for at least a year, while I meet with many clients for several years. During this time we typically reduce the frequency of our sessions until you feel confident navigating the stressors in your life independently.
It is my opinion that you should be in therapy as long as therapy is helpful for you. When you feel that you have achieved what you wanted to, we should discuss terminating treatment (this is a good thing!).
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I really love being a therapist, and my goal is to help you get exactly what you want out of therapy. I’ll always share my honest thoughts with you, and challenge you to think about things through a different lens.
I’ll be your biggest cheerleader throughout the process while holding you accountable to yourself and your goals. My desire is to help you get to a place where you feel ready to leave therapy (and also recognize when it might be helpful to return to therapy in the future).
When you’re looking for a therapist, the best advice I can give you is to ask questions, then go with your gut.
Not quite ready for therapy?
Or live outside WA, OR, or CA? I may still be able to help.
I run a coaching and education company called Confident Boundaries that’s designed for adult children of narcissistic and otherwise toxic parents who are ready to stop walking on eggshells and start taking back control of their lives.
Confident Boundaries with Toxic Parents is my self-guided online course for adults who want to set boundaries with a narcissistic, emotionally immature, or otherwise toxic parent. It’s designed to help you better understand your unique family dynamic, understand what has made setting boundaries with your toxic parent feel impossible in the past, and get clarity around how to move forward and set boundaries that stick.