Online Therapy for Adults with Toxic Parents
Support navigating through the trauma and nuance of being raised in a dysfunctional family system
Having to walk on eggshells around your parent is rough.
If you grew up with a parent who was emotionally immature, volatile, or manipulative, it makes sense that you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or like you’re constantly second-guessing yourself. That’s not a character flaw—it’s a survival strategy you had to learn to survive the dysfunction.
I’m here to help you unlearn it.
While working together in online therapy, I’ll help you manage your anxiety, set boundaries that actually stick, and grieve the parent you needed but didn’t get.
Together, we’ll make sense of the chaos, help you reconnect with your own needs, and figure out what kind of relationship (if any) you want to have with your parent now.
You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. And you’re definitely not crazy.
Hi! I’m Torie
I’m supportive, direct, and (I like to think) I have a pretty decent sense of humor.
You should know, I’m definitely not the listen and nod kind of therapist. And, if you’re looking for that, I’m probably not the right therapist for you. But, if you’re looking for a nonjudgemental therapist who will give you direct and honest feedback, let’s talk.
It’s so nice to meet you.
It can be hard to pick a therapist without actually interacting with them. Here’s a quick little video of me in my online therapy office to give you a better idea of who you’ll be talking with during our therapy sessions.
When I’m not doing therapy, I host the weekly podcast…
You’re Not Crazy
A Podcast for Cycle Breakers with Toxic Parents
Listen to the You’re Not Crazy podcast for my honest and unfiltered advice on dealing with parents who steamroll your boundaries, make you question your own sanity, and add way to much stress to your life.
Online Therapy Specialities
What you should know about working with me.
My approach to online anxiety, depression, and OCD therapy.
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Ideally, we will meet weekly for at least the first six months of working together.
While I strongly believe in the importance of meeting weekly for at least the first several months of therapy, I also understand the very real financial barriers to participating in therapy.
At a minimum, I believe biweekly sessions (every other week) of therapy are necessary to help you make meaningful progress in therapy.
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Most of my clients meet with me for at least a year, while I meet with many clients for several years. During this time we typically reduce the frequency of our sessions until you feel confident navigating the stressors in your life independently.
It is my opinion that you should be in therapy as long as therapy is helpful for you. When you feel that you have achieved what you wanted to, we should discuss terminating treatment (this is a good thing!).
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I really love being a therapist, and my goal is to help you get exactly what you want out of therapy. I’ll always share my honest thoughts with you, and challenge you to think about things through a different lens.
I’ll be your biggest cheerleader throughout the process while holding you accountable to yourself and your goals. My desire is to help you get to a place where you feel ready to leave therapy and also recognize when it might be helpful to return to therapy in the future.
When you’re looking for a therapist, the best advice I can give you is to ask questions, then go with your gut.
Fees and Insurance
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Individual online therapy session (45 minutes): $250
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No, but I can provide you with a superbill you can submit to your insurance company if you have out-of-network mental health benefits upon request.
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I have a limited number of reduced fee spots in my practice that are available to clients who are unable to afford my full session fee.
I request all clients with a reduced fee spot notify me if/when their financial situation changes and increase their fee up to my full session fee, so I can open up another spot to a client who would be otherwise unable to work with me.
Unfortunately, all of my reduced fee spots are currently full.
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No problem! I’ll only provide a superbill if you request one.
Online Therapy for Depression, OCD, Anxiety, and Adult Children of Parents with BPD & NPD
Available in Washington, Oregon, & California
Online therapy is so much more convenient than in-person therapy. There’s no traffic to fight, no parking to search for, and way less time is needed to carve out of your work day. And, not only is it more convenient- it’s just as effective as in-person therapy for all of the issues I treat in my practice. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, online therapy is a great option for you!
adult children of emotionally immature parents
In addition to my therapy practice, I run the Confident Boundaries Membership for cycle breakers with toxic parents.
If you need help setting boundaries with a parent you suspect has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, support from other people who truly get it, or guidance on navigating the many nuances of these relationships, the Confident Boundaries Membership may be a great solution for you!
The Confident Boundaries Membership is specifically designed to help adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders connect with each other while learning how to navigate these layered and complicated relationships.
