Torie Wiksell Therapy

Online therapy for adults with emotionally immature parents or a parent with an unmanaged personality disorder.

You didn’t imagine the chaos. And you’re not overreacting now.

If you were raised by a parent who was emotionally volatile, manipulative, or saw you as an extension of themselves—you know what it’s like to question yourself constantly. To feel constantly anxious, guilty, and responsible for everyone else’s emotions. But I promise you, you are not “too sensitive” or “the problem.” You just grew up in a world where this is the way you had to adapt in order to survive.

Therapy with me is about unlearning the survival strategies that are no longer serving you—so you can stop shrinking yourself to keep the peace and start living your life like it actually belongs to you.

Hi! I’m Torie Wiksell, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in WA, OR, & CA

I specialize in working with adult children of parents with borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and other emotionally immature traits.

My clients are often successful, driven, and thoughtful—but they feel stuck in their personal lives. They second-guess their instincts, feel guilty for wanting space, and have a hard time trusting their own needs.

Therapy with me is validating, direct, and focused. We don’t just rehash the past—we work together to help you feel confident in your boundaries, process the reality of not getting the parent you needed, and create space for relationships that actually feel safe and reciprocal.

You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. And you’re definitely not crazy.

It’s so nice to meet you!

Here’s a quick little video of me to give you a better idea of the person you’ll be talking with during our therapy sessions.

Online Therapy for Depression, OCD, Anxiety, and Adult Children of Parents with BPD & NPD

I also host a weekly podcast for cycle breakers raised by toxic parents…

You’re Not Crazy

If you grew up with a parent who guilt-tripped you into silence, steamrolled your boundaries, or made you feel responsible for their emotions—you’ll feel right at home here.

Online Therapy Specialities

What you should know about working with me.

  • Ideally, we will meet weekly for at least the first six months of working together.

    While I strongly believe in the importance of meeting weekly for at least the first several months of therapy, I also understand the very real financial barriers to participating in therapy.

    At a minimum, I believe biweekly sessions (every other week) of therapy are necessary to help you make meaningful progress in therapy.

  • Most of my clients meet with me for at least a year, while I meet with many clients for several years. During this time we typically reduce the frequency of our sessions until you feel confident navigating the stressors in your life independently.

    It is my opinion that you should be in therapy as long as therapy is helpful for you. When you feel that you have achieved what you wanted to, we should discuss terminating treatment (this is a good thing!).

  • I really love being a therapist, and my goal is to help you get exactly what you want out of therapy. I’ll always share my honest thoughts with you, and challenge you to think about things through a different lens.

    I’ll be your biggest cheerleader throughout the process while holding you accountable to yourself and your goals. My desire is to help you get to a place where you feel ready to leave therapy and also recognize when it might be helpful to return to therapy in the future.

When you’re looking for a therapist, the best advice I can give you is to ask questions, then go with your gut.

Not quite ready for therapy?

Or live outside WA, OR, or CA? I may still be able to help.

I run a coaching and education company called Confident Boundaries that’s designed for adult children of parents with borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder who are ready to stop walking on eggshells and start taking back control of their lives.

1:1 Coaching for Cycle Breakers
A three-month package designed to help you get unstuck, set boundaries that actually hold, and stop internalizing your parent’s dysfunction. Available internationally.

The Confident Boundaries Membership
An ongoing support system and resource library for people navigating emotionally immature, narcissistic, or borderline personality disordered parents. Includes monthly workshops, Q&As, and a private community chat.

Free Boundaries Guide
Not sure where to start? Grab a copy of my free guide, 5 Guilt-Proof Boundaries That Actually Work (Even With a Toxic Parent)—designed to help you speak up, hold your ground, and protect your peace… even when your parent lashes out, blames you, or tries to gaslight you.