Frequently Asked Questions
What potential clients often ask me—and what I want you to know.
Starting therapy—or switching to a new therapist—can feel overwhelming. I completely get it and want to make the process a bit less daunting where I can.
These are some of the most common questions I’m asked during phone consultations, and I think they’re great questions. If I were you, I’d probably want to know these things, too.
My hope is that these answers give you a clearer sense of what it’s like to work with me, what my experience has been, and how I approach some of the more complex challenges that often come with having a parent with borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or both.
Of course, you’re always welcome to ask more during our consultation—my goal is to do what I can to make sure we both feel we’re a good fit before fully jumping in.
What is your experience working with adult children of parents with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)?
I’ve been a licensed therapist for over a decade, and throughout my career, I’ve worked extensively with individuals diagnosed with personality disorders. I gained a lot of insight into how these disorders affect both the person who has them and the people around them. What I’ve learned—especially through working with family members in therapy—is that support for loved ones is severely lacking, even though they are often the ones most deeply impacted by the emotional volatility and relational trauma that comes with these dynamics.
Over time, I realized that my true passion was working with adult children of parents with these disorders. I saw how deeply misunderstood and unsupported they often felt, even in therapy settings. So I shifted my focus and built my practice specifically around helping people like you—people who were raised in chaotic, unpredictable family systems and are ready to heal from the damage.
Why are you so passionate about this work?
Because I lived it.
I’m the adult child of a parent I believe had narcissistic personality disorder with many BPD traits. I’ve been in your shoes—trying to make sense of emotional chaos, navigating complex trauma and grief, and searching for someone who actually understands this dynamic.
Unfortunately, many therapists don’t. Even with the best intentions, they often give advice that doesn’t work—or worse, causes harm. I’ve had therapists tell me not to set boundaries or to excuse abusive behavior. That’s not okay. And it’s why I’ve made it my mission to be the therapist I needed but couldn’t find back then.
I’ve also had the privilege of working with a few excellent therapists who did get it. Their validation changed everything for me. I want to offer that same kind of hope and clarity to the clients I work with now.
Working With a Licensed Online Therapist
You also specialize in treating OCD. How did that become part of your work?
Like many people with OCD, I lived with it for years before I ever received a diagnosis. I always knew I was anxious, but I didn’t recognize the symptoms of OCD—especially the more hidden ones like mental compulsions, intrusive thoughts, and reassurance-seeking.
Even in grad school, I didn’t identify with the way OCD was portrayed. And that’s incredibly common. OCD is frequently misunderstood and misdiagnosed, and the people who have it are often high-functioning, successful, and silently suffering.
Eventually, I found effective treatment through Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)—the gold-standard therapy for OCD—and it was life-changing. Now I’m passionate about helping others get that same clarity and relief, without spending decades spinning in uncertainty and shame.
Why should I work with you as my virtual therapist?
Honestly? You should go with your gut.
I don’t believe in convincing people to work with me. I love what I do, but by no means am I under the delusion that I’m the only person in the world capable of helping you. I think chemistry is important when it comes to choosing a therapist and feeling like we’re a good match goes both ways.
My style is direct, warm, sometimes a little sarcastic, and occasionally peppered with profanity. I’m a fan of finding humor in the darkness when possible. I provide my clients with real, practical insight and feedback—not just nodding and “mm-hmm”-ing for 45 minutes.
If that sounds like what you're looking for, then we might be a great fit. If not, that’s okay too. What matters most is that you work with someone you feel comfortable with—someone who understands you and supports your goals.
What I can promise you is this: I will always root for you. I won’t judge you. I’ll be honest with you, hold space for you, and work hard to help you feel more confident in your boundaries, your instincts, and your healing.
