Therapy with Torie
Online therapy for the adult children of parents with narcissistic and borderline personality disorders
Growing up as a parentified child leads to a complicated journey as an adult.
When you grow up with a parent you suspect has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, you learn to become a skilled problem-solver, someone highly attuned to other people’s emotions and needs, and capable of handling a lot at once.
These skills set you up for a successful life in many ways. But growing up in this type of family also trains you to doubt yourself, prioritize everyone else’s comfort above your own, and leaves you feeling anxious and exhausted.
It’s isolating to be so highly functional in certain areas of your life, yet struggle silently in others. I want you to know that things can get better.
Hi! I’m Torie Wiksell, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in WA, OR, & CA
My clients are thoughtful, capable, and often high-achieving in many areas of their lives, yet they tend to second-guess themselves, feel guilty for having needs, and carry a constant worry that they are the problem, even when the facts tell a different story.
In therapy, I help my clients look at how the family dynamics they grew up in impact their current struggles. I help my clients learn how to trust themselves, manage difficult emotions without dissociating and jumping into problem-solving mode, and approach their relationships in a way that feels safe and emotionally sustainable.
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You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. And you’re definitely not the problem.
It’s so nice to meet you.
Here’s a quick welcome video to give you a better sense of the person you’ll be talking with while working together.
Online Therapy Areas of Focus
Therapy for Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Traits
If you’ve been researching parentification, growing up with a borderline personality disorder parent, or emotionally immature family dynamics, you’re not alone. Many of my clients come in after years of trying to understand these patterns on their own. Therapy helps you move from understanding → actually changing how you feel, respond, and relate.
What you should know about working with me.
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Ideally, we will meet weekly for at least the first six months of working together.
While I strongly believe in the importance of meeting weekly for at least the first several months of therapy, I also understand the very real financial barriers to participating in therapy.
At a minimum, I believe biweekly sessions (every other week) of therapy are necessary to help you make meaningful progress in therapy.
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Most of my clients meet with me for at least a year, while I meet with many clients for several years. During this time we typically reduce the frequency of our sessions until you feel confident navigating the stressors in your life independently.
It is my opinion that you should be in therapy as long as therapy is helpful for you. When you feel that you have achieved what you wanted to, we should discuss terminating treatment (this is a good thing!).
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I really love being a therapist, and my goal is to help you get exactly what you want out of therapy. I’ll always share my honest thoughts with you, and challenge you to think about things through a different lens.
I’ll be your biggest cheerleader throughout the process while holding you accountable to yourself and your goals. My desire is to help you get to a place where you feel ready to leave therapy (and also recognize when it might be helpful to return to therapy in the future).
